My Soul’s Journey

How I arrived here,
and how I’m evolving…

I AM NOT A “BEFORE AND AFTER” STORY.

I am much more complex and nuanced than that. My soul’s journey is one of constant metamorphosis, transformation, and evolution. Change is part of who I am and, if you’re reading this, I reckon it’s part of who you are too…

MEET YOUR MENTOR

HEATHER WAXMAN

Everything that I teach, offer, and share is born of my own struggles, challenges, trauma, and suffering. Inside my wounds, I found my wisdom and I support soulful, ambitious, deeply-feeling individuals like you to do the same.

I was born two years after the death of my older sister, who died three days after she was born of a rare heart defect. I grew up in a home with an Irish-Catholic mother and a German-Jewish father. I was richly exposed to both cultures but was raised primarily Catholic. That, along with the gifts and challenges of being an only child living in a family system that both nurtured my creative spirit and greatly eroded by sense of self has shaped me into the woman I am today.

Like you, I am many things. Multi-dimensional, complex, and nuanced. My story is the same, and I’m honored to share it with you below.

I grew up SINGING DISNEY MOVIES TO MY MOTHER AT 5AM…

(Bless her soul.)

I would wake her up at the crack of dawn and perform the entirety of my favorite Disney movie at the time (Beauty and the Beast was always a personal favorite). My parents nurtured my creativity. They encouraged it; they never said “no” to anything I wanted to do to express myself creatively — be it sports (I played softball and basketball from ages 4 - 17), singing (I started vocal lessons at the age of 10), or dancing (I had a brief hip-hop dancing stint in middle school).

I’ve often been recognized as a leader. When I was in 4th grade, my friend Amanda and I were chosen to read books at circle time to the first graders. When I played softball, I played leadership positions like short stop, center field, or pitcher. I wasn’t the greatest player on the field but I was always willing to work for what I desired. My work ethic was incredibly strong, and I always felt a strong desire to be of service and pass on what I learned to others.

When I was thirteen years old, things began to get rocky in my home. One of my parents began to get swallowed by the disease of alcoholism and my parents’ relationship became volatile and toxic. They divorced when I was in my early twenties, and this was the catalyst for my spiritual awakening. The breakdown of their marriage became the beginning of my personal homecoming. Over the next decade, I would begin unraveling and healing from many signature themes: soul lessons that I chose to heal in this lifetime…

A FEW OF MY SOUL'S SIGNATURE THEMES

01 / BODY + BEAUTY

For many years, I dissociated from reality by way of an eating disorder. This was a trauma response to my family-of-origin experience and the cultural narratives I internalized about bodies, beauty, and women. Being embodied in this body is something that has taken me years to achieve, and it continues to be a deep, rich, and evolving journey of coming home to my true nature and embracing all of me. It took me nearly 20 years to truly surrender and begin to heal this conditioning at the root. When I did, inside the healing of that wound, I uncovered the part of my soul’s essence that deeply values creating beauty through art and full-sensory experiences.
02/ OVER-RESPONSIBILITY + PRESENCE

When I was 3-years-old, my mother and I got into a car accident. I was somewhat okay but my mother was more injured than me. As we sat in the ambulance, I looked down at my mother on a stretcher and said, “Don’t worry mommy, I take care of you.” This is how I operated. I assumed the roles of psuedo-therapist to my mother and pseudo-spouse to my father, becoming overly involved emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and psychologically with both of them. All I knew was over-functioning. Over time, I learned to set boundaries, embrace vulnerability, be fully human, and trust in the potency of being fully present.
03/ GIVING AWAY + RECLAIMING MY POWER

One of my most profound signature themes. We teach what we need to learn, and I have most certainly learned this lesson quite deeply. For most of my life, I outsourced my power to perceived authority figures, compulsively seeking love, belonging, and validation from others (especially women who I perceived as stereotypically beautiful or “popular”). I felt that, by being in close proximity to them, that made me more worthy and beautiful. I didn’t see myself as worthy and beautiful on my own. Reclaiming my power by learning to source my self-worth and felt sense of beauty from within has been one of the greatest lessons of my life, and is a theme that surfaces with almost every client I work with.

IN 2018, THE DEEPEST PART OF MY HEALING JOURNEY TO DATE BEGAN…

I was woken up around 3am hearing a voice saying, “Look up narcissistic personality disorder.”

This was before we were regularly using the term narcissist to describe people. I had never before heard of it as a personality disorder. I looked up the characteristics of NPD and my stomach dropped—one of my parents ticked off every single characteristic.

…and so began the most intense, painful, and ultimately liberating journey of my life: healing from narcissistic abuse. What is particularly tricky about healing from emotional-psychological-spiritual (and, in my case, financial) abuse is the fact that it is invisible to the naked eye and unique to the individual. It requires rigor, devotion, and resilience—and I am grateful to possess all three of those qualities in spades.

I share some of my story here with you because I want you to know that I am writing to you as both a woman who has healed and as a woman who is still healing. I am the daughter of two individuals who were incredibly flawed and traumatized in their own ways—unfortunately, to their own mental-emotional-psychological demises. I am also the daughter of two individuals who nurtured my creative spirit, instilled spiritual values into my heart, and offered me a necessary combination of nurturing and structure in my early years. I wouldn’t be who I am without them and, while I no longer have a relationship with them, I have so much love for them and deep gratitude for everything I’ve learned from having them as parents in this lifetime.

My intention in sharing parts of my life story with you is so that you can see your own wholeness reflected back to you. We are so much more alike that we are different—we are souls having a human experience. And part of our human experience is to heal our wounds. And as we heal our wounds, they turn into the wisdom we are here to offer the world.

Every practice, tool, or resource I share with you is one I have used and/or am currently using in my own life: spiritual practices like prayer, breathwork, EFT tapping, inner child healing, family-of-origin work, subconscious mind tools, and more have been practiced and embodied by me on my personal healing journey.

Just like you, I am here to teach what I’ve learned. I’m so grateful you’re here, and know this: you are in the hands of someone who fully intends to hold and see you in all your brilliance, wisdom, love, light, wounding, messiness, and everything in between. Thank you for witnessing all of me. I’m honored to be able to extend that back to you…

my pROFESSIONAL BACKGROUND

Certifications, Training, and Experience

Masters of Arts Degree in Marriage & Family Therapy (2019 - 2023)

Certified Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) Practitioner (2023 - 2024)

Somatic Internal Family Systems Training (2023)

Angelic Breath Healing Teacher Training (2017 - 2018)

Kundalini Yoga & Meditation Training (2013 - 2015)

Student and teacher of A Course in Miracles (2011 - Present)

Somatic Exercises Teacher Training (Currently enrolled)

Who I Work With

I work with individuals who are ready to take it to the next level in their healing process, who are navigating some kind of life transition or season of death-and-rebirth, and are ready to shed old patterning and conditioning so they reclaim their power on a deeper level and step into the next season of their life even more embodied in their soul’s essence.

How I Work with Clients

The coaching I offer is a combination of spiritual psychology, somatic practice, subconscious mind work, and relational healing practices. I blend my intuitive skills and my deep devotion to my practices and training (see above) to support you to break free from old patterns, reclaim your power, and come home to your true nature.

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a little more about me

- Morning: Bulletproof’s High Achiever Coffee
- Afternoon: Herbal tea (butterfly pea flower, Mountain Rose Herb’s Moon Ease blend, and Rishi’s Pink Lemon Ginger tea are three of my current faves)

I love creating playlists! It’s art to me. I created a Private Coaching Immersion playlist for potential clients like you. Each song has been intentionally added to give you a felt sense of the energetic signature of our work together. Listen to and follow the playlist here.

My wife Nicole and our dear friend Jen are in a fun little book club together. We’re currently reading The Hypnotist’s Love Story and I’m enjoying the lightness and fun of it!